Previously, many Chinese students and I share all about how to achieve excellence and excellence, how to become leaders and launched. Recently, Sina chat rooms and I received many e-mail, I found more Chinese students need to know not how from good to great, but how to positive from confusion, from failure to success, from inferiority to self-confidence, from melancholy to joy, from fear to optimism.
An extreme example is the 2004 February occurred in Yunnan University Majiajue events. Majiajue brutally murdered since
own four students. But Ma Jiajue was arrested conversations with the psychologist's opinion, he should not be an evil person, but is a disorientation, lack of confidence, character enclosed children. He and many college students, eager to know how to be successful, confident and happy.
my letter is for those who want to succeed but that a successful distance inaccessible, but always eager to self-pity self-confidence, desire happiness but I do not know why the matter of students happy to see. hope this letter will give the reader a new one on the definition of success, encouraging readers to understand and recognize themselves to be a happy people. also hope that this letter will help readers understand the success, confidence, happiness is a virtuous circle: where you can get from a successful self-confidence and happiness, where you can be happy from the self-confidence and success, from success and happiness where you can be confident.
success is to be the best American writer William
your own. Faulkner said:
Chinese society has a common problem, it is hoped that everyone according to a model developed to measure whether each person China, people bear the brunt of the pursuit of wealth, all walks of life, the success of the evaluation of a person, more personal wealth indicators. However, with the best results can contribute to society? Yes fame certainly happy?
true success should be diversified. success may be that you have created new wealth or technology, may be brought happiness for others you may be on the job you get from others trust, it may be you find a return to self, inoffensive way of life. The success of each person is unique. So, Ling Zhijun in its of your own. > successful first step: take aim in life, be a proactive person
Sina chat room, when friends ask what my purpose in life, I was so answered: important is to have the greatest influence (impact), to help themselves, help families, help the country to help the world and help future generations, allowing them to enjoy better, more efficient, can bring them happiness and happy. but my best think-tank, it has helped me many times in work and life problems. I had to give up work in the United States and moved to China was founded Microsoft Research China, it is because I feel that the latter work greater influence, and my goal in life is more consistent. In addition, when I received a letter from the students lost letters, write them a letter, I would think: ? . He said: I was wrong. In fact, the meaning of life is that there really is. what? so, he may not go astray the.
so, whether to the truth, in order to influence, or for pleasure, family, morality, tranquility, knowledge, innovation hh Once the goals in life, you like me, under the guidance of goals in life, decisively and make major life decisions. each person's life goals are unique. The most important thing is, you have to take the initiative to take their own life goals. But you must not be too hasty , not in pursuit of so-called can not answer, because only one person can tell what your goal in life, that person is you. only one place you can find your target, that is your heart.
I suggest you close your eyes, the first comes in your mind the ideal record, as the answer without thinking is the most sincere. Or, you can look back at your happiest, most rewarding of life is, is there something in common? them is the most likely to inspire your life goal. Furthermore, you can imagine, fifteen years later, when you reach the perfect state of life, what kind of environment you will be in? what kind of work? which What is the happiest thing? Of course, you may wish to talk about family and friends, listen to their views.
the success of the second step: to try new areas to explore your interests
to be the best your own, the most important thing is to play to their full potential, pursue the most interesting and the most passionate thing. When you are interested in a certain area, you will walk to class or taking a bath when they never forget it, you more easily in the field to succeed. Furthermore, if you have passion in this area, you may neither eat nor sleep for it, even when you think of an idea to sleep, will jump. this time, you are no longer working for success, but to or talent to do it well, you definitely do not release all of the potential. So I do not agree with every student pursuing the most popular professional, I think everyone should understand their interests, passions and abilities (also EQ is mentioned in the technical progress to human development and improvement of life and excitement. the mathematics. If he left school at Harvard to continue reading and become a professor of mathematics, can you imagine his potential will be suppressed and to what degree? 2002, Bill. Gates, Microsoft's 25 years in leadership, but decided to CEO's job to Ballmer, because the only way he can join in the work of his favorite mm as chief software architect, specializing in software technology innovation. Although the Bill. Gates was an excellent chief executive officer, but when he he was named chief software architect, his direction of the company made a significant contribution to technology and, more importantly, he is more passion, more happiness, and which also inspired the morale of all employees.
Bill. a good friend of Gates, America's most outstanding investors, Warren. Buffett also recognized the importance of passion. When a student asked him the direction, he always would reply: difference. If you have to find a difference, it may be an opportunity to do my daily work I love. If you want me to give you advice, that this is the best advice I can give you out. > Bill. Gates and Warren. Warren Buffett, another revelation to us is that they love is not vulgar, unified fame and fortune, their fame is their vision and passion can bring. the United States a well-known SEM has done a survey and found that while most students want to chase fame and fortune in the admission, but alumni with the most fame and fortune, 90% of the ideal pursuit of admission, rather than chasing fame.
I entered the university, to engage in legal or political work. a year later I found myself not interested in it, only in the middle grades. but I fell in love with computers, programming crazy day, soon caught the teacher, the students attention. Finally, one day sophomore year, I made a major decision: to abandon more than a year after the nation's top three in the Faculty of Law at Columbia University has cultivated itself into the credits transferred to Columbia University, an obscure Department of Computer Science. I told myself, life only once, should not be wasted in the absence of joy, no sense of accomplishment in the field. at that time a friend said to me, will pay a lot of change in professional costs, but I told them to do a job without passion will pay a higher price. That day, I elated spirits, I promise to myself, each subject three years after college to get A. If it were not to be the decision of the day, and today I will not have in the computer field achievements, and I probably just a small town in the United States is neither successful nor happy to be a lawyer.
Even so, the passion of my career and my father is far from comparison. I had been that his father was a stern man to see his father's favorite until last year the two students (who are now professors), I know how much my father loved his work. his students told me: always grin, he to make us more like our subjects, often in the discussion of our favorite restaurants. He got to spend our time and money, far more than his meager income. senior citizens, after the army, politics, writing career after finding his favorite mm teaching. He died, the students found in his drawer, he encouraged his two sentences: of spontaneous. do you have the talent to do easy achievements, but do not because they do well to think it is of interest to you. To find the true interest and passion, you can ask yourself: for something, you are eager to repeat it whether it can happily and successfully complete it? you have been longing for the past is not it? is always quick to learn it? it always makes you satisfied? you sincerely from the heart (not just from the mind) Love it? you the happiest thing in life and it is not relevant? When you ask yourself, pay attention not to the expectations of your parents, social values and the influence of friends into your answer.
If you can clearly answer the question, then you are lucky, because most of the students in the university four years in exploration or remorse. If you have yet to find answers to these questions, I have only one suggestion: give yourself the chance to reach the most Most of the choices. remember I first entered the Carnegie. Mellon doctoral, the school has a mechanism that allows students pick teachers. in the first month, each teacher so that the stops to attract students to do the whole body. It is because of this mechanism, I was lucky enough to meet my mentor, Professor Reddy, select the subject of my PhD, , professional, subject and teacher, and then pick and choose your interest. You can also libraries, networks, seminars, club activities, friends, communication, e-mail and other ways to find hobbies. Only you can try to touch, only to try your to find your favorite.
Ya-Qin Zhang of my colleagues once said: Only those who dare to try, is an absolute failure. For interest, will be phased goal, a step forward
find your interest, the next step is to do the development of specific milestones toward their own ideals Yibubuxiang.
First, you should be objective assess their interests and ideals from the still badly what? is a need to learn a lesson, read a book, make a more sociable person, control your temper or become a better speaker? fifteen years later to become the best of their own today and what is the difference? or otherwise? you should try to fill these gaps. For example, when I decided to make my life purpose is to maximize my influence, I find that I lack is the most lecture and communication skills. I had a talk to people embarrassing, came fear of speech will be students. I do when TA was especially poor, students and even took me a to achieve my ideal, I set myself a number of presentation and communication skills to improve the specific objectives.
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